Does he like me? How to know if a guy is attracted to you
“Do you like me? I really want to know!”
… then there’s this guy …
He is perfect. It looks like it could, but you’re dying to know, “Do you like me?” Many people get lost in the first step of dating. You both think the other is interested in you, but sometimes it’s hard to tell. Send so many confusing and contradictory messages that you don’t know what to do.
You think it’s cool. You like the way it makes you feel (sometimes!). It is even in your dreams, but you are afraid of being ashamed to go after that guy because it is so hard to understand.
Chances are, if you are so confused, he really is attracted to you. The whole “dating ritual between men and women is full of confusing nuances and strange rituals that none of you know you are doing. So many loves are lost in the confusion …
The key is to take charge and work this out so that you can stop torturing yourself and continue with the kissing.
Some guys are just incurable flirtations. He will chat with any girl he sees. Most guys only flirt with the one they are interested in. Pay attention to how he acts with other women. Does he say the same things to them as to you? Does he also have the same kind of nervous shyness with them? If not, you can bet he is attracted to you.
Men change around someone they like. Think of gorillas beating their chests to impress a sexy gorilla. Do you try to show off around you? Does he do weird things around you that he doesn’t with other girls? On the “Does he like me?” Scale, this is as close to ten as you can get.
Compliments are obvious signs of attraction, but be cruel? !! How does he show to be mean that he is attracted to you? It seems impossible, but watch any TV show about the mating rituals of mammals and you will often see that the male is an idiot to the female. It is a very primal instinct that men have.
Does he insult you, but then always tries to be around you? It is obvious that he is interested in you, but then he says something bad to you? You can guarantee that most guys don’t even realize they’re doing this. But think about what this accomplishes in your mind – you can’t stop thinking about it! You spend your days adding up all the good things it does and then you get stuck analyzing the bad things.
Mission accomplished! It has you confused and crazy. Do you like me Scale: 7.5
You avoid people you don’t like. You hang out with your friends. You make an effort to spend time with the people you are attracted to. The same goes for boys. If he always seems to be around wherever you are, you can bet he likes you. If he finds it too inconvenient to “check in” all the time, it’s a big sign that he’s attracted to you.
We gravitate towards the people we care about. Does it get too much in your personal space? Does he always lean towards you? Your turn? Not that kind of touch! Does he bump into you or touch your back or arm when he sees you? This includes petty touching, such as playfully trying to trip or push him away.
Think about this: when someone pushes you, they are usually angry. If you are not angry, you are obviously doing it for some other reason.
Men are not the masters of body language than women. They are not very subtle. Every time he touches you, he takes a “forward stance” is a great sign of attraction.
This can go in one of two possible directions. If he’s shy, he might avoid eye contact at all costs if he really likes you. If he is not shy, he will do his best to get your attention. Try to make the shy guy look you in the eye. He will reveal his feelings for you faster than anything else. If he’s not the shy type, stare at him. Sometimes it’s those awkward little moments that send you both into each other’s arms.
Try leaning toward him during one of these glances. If he leans with you, you are inside. Go for the kiss if you are really feeling it! Which brings us to …
When we develop a closeness with someone, we unconsciously begin to “mirror” their actions. While you are talking to him, he touches your ear (or hair or some part of your body) and if he repeats this action in a few minutes, he is showing interest in you. It could be as simple as him always having a drink shortly after you do.
So he’s doing most, if not all, of the signs of attraction and the readings on the scale. Does he like it off the charts? How do you get him to take the first step? The answer is that you NEVER take the first step. Sure, he might one day come up to you and ask you out, but you made all the first moves up to that point.
Show interest in it. Ask him questions about his interests. Play it back. Compliment him on something and yes, be mean to him! If all else fails to get that guy into action, you have to go out there and call him:
“I think it’s strange that you didn’t ask me out on a date.”
Wow girl! No one had ever told him that before! Even if he was undecided about you, now he’s impressed. Not only that, you’re actually not exposing yourself that much to embarrassment. Even if he responds with “Because I don’t want to”, you can reply with “Hmmm, interesting.” And he’s still on the bench!
If you make enough “observations”, even the shyest guys will break down and ask you out. You no longer have to worry, “Do you like me?” and get on with what you’ve always wanted: an amazing relationship.