Barely Legal: Older Guys Dating Teens?
Are you a fan of the NBA? If you watched the playoffs, you certainly saw the T-Mobile commercial in which Charles Barkley constantly calls D-Wade. Funny things, particularly when Chuck says foolishly, “That’s why whose Eat shrimp “.
Well, despite all the hype on the Seduction Community about attracting the youngest beauties possible (especially if you’re an older man), that’s how I feel about dating girls of eighteen or nineteen, even if they are “legal”. .
And for those of you who might be assuming this is all a function of my current age, I have viewed the universe this way since I was 21, with a few scattered exceptions.
It’s not a coincidence, you see, 21 is when a guy in America (like me) can finally order a beer.
It’s not that younger girls aren’t very, very hot … you and I both know they are.
The deal is that they are unnecessary.
The way I see it, I can find a woman who is at least 21 years old and who seems as intriguing as any 18 or 19 year old. And then I can take it ANYWHERE I want.
Otherwise, she restrictions become me restrictions. And I’ve been through being relegated to “Teen Night” at the local club for over twenty years.
Think about it … they are teenagers, after all.
They barely finished high school, much less college. This means that there has not yet been any possibility of cultivating the necessary level of independence and maturity that most older men invariably demand.
Now if you’re 30 and still living in your mom’s basements, all bets are off. Disregard the above statement.
But otherwise, my guess is that most men of any advanced age, beyond 21, probably just THINK they want “barely legal” girls in their rotation.
By using the word “rotation” above, I am conveying the stark fact that I am too squeamish to think that any older boy is seriously talking about making a teenager his. stable girlfriend.
In fact, here it is: I really think the vast majority of guys who think they want to date teenage girls are in that frame because i can’t get them.
Simply put, fantasy is clearly better than reality.
Beyond the issue of social constraints and maturity level, there are two other factors that are possibly even more important.
First, if you are interested in some kind of long-term relationship with a woman, dealing with a teenager is the proverbial “box of chocolates.”
How many teenage couples do you know who have separated because of age … oh … 21, because they “broke up”. With real life experience there is a real shift in priorities and even personality itself.
Also, how do you know that your 19 year old girlfriend will look great at 30?
You do not.
I was recently interviewed for an upcoming older men’s product on dating younger women. The guys who produce it are very well known, but I hadn’t had a chance to meet them yet when they approached me.
Suffice it to say that they have a unique perspective.
Ultimately, I would rather find a woman closer to my age who is still given a card. That way, you get the sexy and sexy little slut of your dreams … all with the added benefits of social community, emotional maturity (we hope), and the blessed assurance that this woman will. it will most likely continue to age well.
Aside from online dating, where everyone’s stats are pinned to their respective profiles, the main challenge for me always came down to actually identifying the type of women I’m talking about.
After all, we don’t walk around with a statistic-filled cartoon bubble over our heads in real life.
But my very real, “field proven” premise is that there are women around us wherever we go who look and appear much, much younger than their age.
Humorously, most of the women I have met report that they are beaten primarily by men many years their junior, who are shocked to find out their actual age. Meanwhile, these same women strongly yearn to be approached by men their own age, who largely assume they are “too young.”
Ironies abound, right?
And what about this?
You just have to have the guts to meet them and find out, that’s what happens. The problem is that “approach” is equivalent to “pick up” for practically all men.
In the meantime, if I’m friendly and start a wayward conversation even with the fresh-faced girl behind the checkout at the grocery store, May I discover that he is actually 28 years old. But this will only happen if I can get out of my own head, drop the “agendas” and stop seeing every interaction with any woman as a “toy”.
Oh yeah, I did mention that there were two other important factors, didn’t I?
How is this … how do you really know that your “18 year old” is 18? If it takes the potential of handcuffs and iron bars to prove it, so be it. You don’t want to be the type to find out that his new girlfriend is only 16 or 17 after the law says it’s too late.
By the way, don’t count on knowing your parents as proof of age. A surprising number of them are more than happy to help her “protect” you from the truth.